Re: *mutter*

[dazura]

Hell, I don't really know. People are strange sometimes.

Probably part of it is that while people might theoretically prefer someone like you, you're not the kind of person that draws their attention when they're looking for someone or something to fuck. They're going into things looking for a relationship, and they manage to find someone who's hot and visible (i.e. extraverted) and wants sex too, and they end up with this kind of person time and time again, even if your type would be better for them. If confronted with choice between something mediocre and visible, and something excellent and invisible, they'll choose the visible one. And fight over the visible ones. And put the visible ones in high demand. All while failing to notice the good ones.

Try taking the initiative with someone. Nothing much to lose, is there? It's either that or wait for someone to happen to fall for you, and you for them, and there's no telling how long that'd be.

[NaughtyOtsel]

I used to be into the wild extroverted type guys who only wanted sex until I met my current man who's a sweet natured smarty, who can be extroverted but usually he's the quit shy type. He's so sweet and wonderful to be around; totally nonstressing. The girls'll come to their senses

[dazura]

You need practice then. Go forth and get some.

It might actually be not a bad idea to hold off on that until you've moved to civilization, so that you have a better chance of never happening to see the people you happen to disturb again. But your social skills certainly won't get better if you don't actually use them.

[NaughtyOtsel]

yeah, D's got a point...

I was THE target to fuck with in gradeschool and highschool from 5th grade until senior year. Caused a lot of mental illness. I made up for them fucking with me, by getting right back...heh...I'm one evil bitch.

The trick is just give it a shot..

[DivenWest]

Kassil said:

During the 'growing up' phase of my life, I had pretty much nil social contact with people. In school, I was the target of choice to harass, being both the biggest and the smartest...

Hey! Another one! It was the same way with me, I was the shy fat kid. I never really had any friends untill I met the shy fat kid from another school. We were good friends till he moved away. I kinda fell into a spiral of depression till I found my place in the Furry world. I would say that it was my interaction with other people on that level, one of non-judgment, that really brought me out of my shell. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to push the fandom/lifestyle on anybody, I am just saying from my experiances there, I gained the social drive that led me out of the woods ((Yes, I live far from people as well)) and into life.